Well, hello, friends. Long time no …
Yesterday was the new moon. Oh, I have been aching to do the work the new moon calls for. The needs have been yelling inside me… and outside too. I have been off kilter, I had two injuries to my vessel this week (I’m ok and healing but oof) and I had a car incident (it will also be ok but also going through healing pains and inconveniences.) Through it all I’m hearing loudly ways to care for myself and my stuff that need to happen. I’m feeling what it is to be so consumed with life as full time stay-at-home-mama, with two kids, no outside support opportunities, and so yeah that stuff that needs doing for me and my space… it is either moving at molasses pace or awaiting opportunity to move forward at all.
All this to say… I didn’t look at the calendar. But, I could feel this moon. That happens to me a lot. Probably, it happens to you too.
Second child mom life has been a lot. The intensity of life, and the world at large, can be distracting. Uncentering. I haven’t been checked into my ritual work, the work that gives me roots and reminds me my center. I haven’t prioritized the alignment of alternating new and full moons with even little moments check in, of priority of release or fresh joyful dream focus, and it shows. My external life reflects the internal. So, I return to connection, prioritizing what are true priorities.
I’ve missed being in contact with community that finds this work resonant. You all. So today, as I wait for secondary repairs on the car… I find a minute. I release frustration at late happenings, because I recognize that they mean I get this moment. This little window of time to connect. To write. To get in my new moon feel goods.
“But, new moon was yesterday.” – you moan.
Y’all, the power window is a beautiful thing. It makes the work accessible and I need that. So, I’m leaning in. And you know what? This work is good work any day (or night) it can be done. Doing the work- that’s the best part.
New moon is a good time to connect with your life vision. Enter the practices of vaguefacing, I coined this phrase, and joy-jumping, I learned this valuable exercise elsewhere.
- Vaguefacing- Imagining your life as though it is a news interview and they have blurred the face of the interviewee. Connecting to feeling is more vital than filling in details. Get as vague as possible. Whenever you notice unnecessary detail, blur it away. In this way you offer yourself a more boundless vision, making space for magic that can find you and pop right into your life reality. Always utilize categories while imagining, this way you create life balance. Categories: Home, Body, Work, Relationships, Purpose. Freely write this exercise, or draw while dreaming, discuss it with the sky, or just imagine it for a moment each, whatever you have space for.
- ex. You are doing work that makes you happy, there is a smile on your face, you feel proud of the work you have done, you receive rewarding fulfilling emotions and tangible appreciation for what you do. *This scenario allows you to think about your work without being too specific about the work itself, you can freely create the feel goods without limiting yourself by inserting preconceived notions you may hold about space or people involved. Preconceptions can become limitations in dreamland and we don’t need any of that.
- Joy-jumping – Think of things that make you happy, the ideas should cause physical feelings of relief, a deep breath, a smile, a warm vibe, a giggle. Picture the joyful moment and don’t stay with it long before jumping to the next moment, when we allow our imaginations to stay in any scenario too long we give the critical brain time to participate – forget that, we are not making space for that critic! Not in joy jumping land!
- Yummy thought, jump, funny delicious thought, jump, super fun thought, jump, etc.
- *I love to joy-jump before bed. When I’m out of practice it becomes a lot of work to find my blissful thoughts. Times when anxiety is high I can have cyclical, unhelpful, spiral brain. When I’m in strong practice with joy-jumping I can do it for some minutes before I fall asleep and then if I experience head garbage at any other moment I can make an active choice to switch into joy-jumping thoughts and replace the anxious spiral. The beginning of this work can be slow going, trying to think of these moments, but I promise you that with time the joy moments come more quickly and easily, soon enough it’s a function of body memory and you can use them to pull yourself into better feeling space rapidly. Raise that vibration! It feels so good.
- Note: I don’t believe we can go from feeling depressed to optimistic all the time, and sometimes you have to sit with your feels. I have established a lot of coping mechanisms because I’ve learned that I don’t sit with my challenging feels very well without them causing disfunction that is, again, a spiral path. And while I maybe cannot go from depressed to optimistic, I can maybe go from depressed to content or depressed to hopeful or depressed to comforted. POINT BEING: be where you are, it is all good to show up for yourself as best serves you. Because these things serve me well, and have for many years, I share with you.
Here is my promise to do some of this work today… and probably some trickling through the next days. Joy-jumping I’d like to do *again* every single night. So, that’s a thing to aim for. The little work I did while writing this is freeing. Make space for the good feels. Take action, this can all be as small scale as you need it to be. Visualize while washing dishes, taking a shower, falling asleep. Got a bunch of time? Fill it with this goodness! Do what serves you.
And, as always, I wish you the very best in life.
The Moon Maven 